Adjusting Your Mindset About Self-Care

by | Jun 1, 2024 | Leadership | 1 comment

Nowadays, self-care has been commercialized. Whether from a social media influencer or a television commercial, the task looks fun and effortless. But the reality is that self-care takes discipline and practice to master. It means prioritizing yourself, even on a busy day full of meetings, or getting up for that morning workout even when you don’t feel like it. Leading well is about taking care of oneself and taking care of the business. 

I’m sharing a strategy to help you develop and follow a Leading Well Self-Care plan. This two-part series will include adjusting your mindset and creating an action-based plan. This section will discuss the importance of changing your perspective. 

Acknowledge the Benefits of Self-Care

According to, in a 2020 study, 75% of Americans believe self-care activities provide stress relief, 67% saw an increase in productivity, and 71% saw an increase in happiness. Because of the pandemic, 67% of people made self-care habits a permanent part of their life.

Self-care is not an option or something you do when you have the time. When you acknowledge that it is essential to live a wholistic life, you’ll start to realize a mindset shift. Mindsets are the containers that hold our beliefs; our mindset evolves as we examine and adjust our beliefs about specific things, such as wellness and self-care.

Examine Your Wellness Mindset

Let’s explore some stats around the reality of self-care. According to research conducted by motivational coach Tony Robbins, “26% of people believe they don’t have time to make a lifestyle change.” What is the difference between the 26% and the 74%? People in both groups are gifted with the same 24-hour days. One group makes the time, and the other group members do not.

Are you part of the 26% that believe they don’t have the time? Could it be that you see self-care as nice if you get the time?  Could it be that you don’t see the value of self-care deep down inside? Do you see it as an option but not a priority for leading well? If so, this belief is limiting you from making a lifestyle change that could enhance your overall well-being.

Acknowledge Your Limiting Beliefs About Self-Care

If you are like most leaders, you are action-oriented, fast-paced, nimbly adapting to change, and getting things done. You most likely work in a system that expects you to be fast-paced and juggling many projects. That action-orientation may have led you to believe that with everything you are managing, you don’t have to work on your wellness. Let’s talk about all the excuses we make, especially as women, to care for everyone else before we take care of ourselves. 

“I don’t have time for self-care.” 

“Self-care is selfish.”

“Self-care is expensive.”

These may seem like fleeting daily thoughts, but they represent limiting beliefs. Any belief that hinders you from achieving your goal or making a lifestyle change that could help you lead and live more wholistically is a limiting belief. To challenge any limiting belief, we must tell the truth about reality. The first step is to acknowledge when you are experiencing limiting beliefs so that you can take the steps to change them. 

Challenge Your Limiting Beliefs with Facts 

Now that we have learned how to identify and stop these limiting beliefs in their tracks, how do we handle them? Change takes time, but there is always time to adjust how we handle our thoughts. 

Here is a fact: time will pass regardless of what you decide to do with it. For example, one of the most common reasons to abandon self-care is “I don’t have the time.” It is not that you don’t have the time (which is a limiting belief); it is that you need tools to make time or help you better organize your time. Do you notice the difference in an empowering perspective?  Acknowledge your feelings, but practice deciphering between your feelings and what is true. This is life-changing! 

Adopt a Liberating Belief

 Liberating beliefs challenge and replace limiting beliefs. Changing your mindset around self-care is priceless, and like any other mindset change, it can be done. It will take practice and time. Start small, but get started. 

Here are some statements that can support your evolving belief about self-care.

  • I must take care of myself—the gift God gave me to steward for a lifetime.
  • My self-care is a priority, not an option.
  • As a leader, I recognize that I cannot pour into others if I lead on empty. 
  • Self-care is a crucial part of my leadership journey, and I am committed to it.
  • I cannot shine my light as a leader if my energy or fuel is depleted.
  • I can only lead well if I spend time at the “well”- where I am restored and rejuvenated from the inside out.
  • I must develop a self-care plan. If I fail to plan my self-care, I will plan to fail at self-care.
  • Self-care entails caring for and attending to my well-being wholistically—not just caring for my physical being.

Leading Well means leading effectively and wholistically. Self-care must be a part of being an effective leader, and changing your mindset is the first step. Now that we have discussed the importance of mindset, I will discuss how to create and implement an effective self-care plan in my next blog.

1 Comment

  1. Carmin

    Thank you for speaking truth, Dr. Jeanne!


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